May 9th & 10th, 2012

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Date: 9 & 10 May 2012 (Wed & Thur)
Time: 9am to 5pm
Venue: Concorde Hotel Function Room
(f.k.a Le Meridien Hotel), Orchard Road
Fee: S$1100.00 (Nett)

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2 day Dealing With Difficult Discussions
- A step-by-step approach to convert destructive confrontations into constructive conversations


Introduction

Difficult discussions result in so much conflict and stress at work, it's a wonder we don't work harder on getting better at them. Poorly handled or avoided, they detract from performance and erode relationships – trust trickles away, misunderstandings multiply, respect recedes, productivity plunges and teams turn toxic.

Difficult Discussions management never appears in a leader's job description, but confronting contentious or challenging conversations and tackling tough talks are something every leader has to learn how to deal with.

Difficult discussions are the toughest test of a leader's emotional intelligence, conversational and relational capabilities. Often they leave us feeling anxious, dissatisfied, drained and even distressed.

Difficult discussions don't need to be daunting and avoidance is often not the best solution. Healthy cultures are gauged not by how well they avoid conflict, which is the source of so much resentment, stress and toxicity, but by how well leaders face up to difficult discussions to resolve differences, repair relationships and reach new and better understandings… 



 

Difficult discussions come in all shapes and sizes: What's a difficult conversation for you?  Dealing with dysfunctional behaviour at work? Handling a disgruntled customer or colleague? Dealing with an emotional employee? Conducting a performance appraisal?  Telling people their work isn't up to scratch or letting someone know how they're affecting other team members?

If you said 'yes' to any of these – this might just be a 'must-do' clinic for you! Over 2 days, it helps leaders assess how they shape up when talks become tense, understand their own handling style (whether it's resorting to blame, accusation, domination or retreating into silence, hoping it will all slide past)  and learn how to take a more methodical, controlled and step-by-step approach to convert destructive confrontation into constructive conversation.  

Designed and delivered by Bill Cropper – a dynamic and engaging facilitator from The Change Forum, Australia – this practice-intensive clinic encourages participant to use their own difficult discussions case studies to practise the tools and steps on. It comes with a substantial self-coaching guide to assist in applying the approaches they learn back at work.

 
     
 

Course Outline:

While there are no sure-fire formulas or quick-fixes that work every-time, there are tools that can help to conduct difficult discussions more confidently and constructively. This 2-day clinic equips leaders with a robust set of easy-to-use tools to navigate their way through troublesome talks more confidently and practice a more methodical approach.
Discover new and different ways to handle a difficult discussion, learn how to approach them with more care, calm, emotional balance and even-mindedness and get new insights into ways to deal with difficult people and tricky conversational moments by focusing on a step-by-step way to deal with them better.
Topics covered in this coaching clinic include…

  • Deciphering the dynamics of difficult discussions
  • 8-stages in working through difficult discussions
  • 3ANTIX  - starting a difficult discussion more decisively
  • Common errors we make and how to avoid them
  • The 3 E-conversations behind difficult discussions
  • Dissecting differences and comparing stories
  • Discussion blockers: Intentions, blame and assumptions
  • Facing feelings – the core of difficult discussions
  • Replace blame/fault-finding with contribution
  • Dealing with defensive routines/strong emotions
  • Disentangling intent from impact
  • Tips for defusing difficult moments
  • Following through for maximum outcomes

What's to be gained from attending this clinic?
After practising the topics and tools we cover in this clinic, leaders will be able to...

  • Identify the dynamics behind difficult discussions and use this to help prepare, structure navigate
  • Rehearse our unique 8-stage model for dealing with difficult discussions
  • Detect and avoid common handling mistakes we make when talks get tough
  • Start a difficult discussion and raise hard topics more objectively and less defensively
  • Try out tools to defuse difficult situations and resolve differences
  • Increase your resilience in the face of silence, anger, anguish or hostility
  • Face up to feelings and learn how to control and work with them constructively during a difficult discussion
  • Learn conversational formulas to beat blockers like intentions, blame & assumptions
  • Identify your difficult discussion patterns and develop a self-coaching plan to improve your approach
 
     
 

Who should participate?

A must attend for: executives, leaders, directors and others who want to have more courageous conversations and deal with difficult discussions more diligently

 
     
 

Testimonials

Thousands of managers, leaders and other professionals have attended Bill Cropper's Dealing with Difficult Discussions clinic over the past few years with overwhelmingly favourable feedback. Here's a selection of comments from just some of those who've attended…

"Fabulous learning experience. Anyone who has to deal with difficult discussions should do this course. Bill is a dynamic facilitator who deals with participants contributions in a positive and learning way."  Georgina McGrath – Nursing Manager, Princess Alexandra Hospital

"The course really hit the mark with me – it was well structured and flowed naturally from concept to concept. Concepts were highly relevant and easy to understand and activities were interesting and relevant to the learning., The highlight for me was the "ugly story. All the content was worthwhile and presented in a way which allows easy application in real life and knowledge constructed into models which facilitated easy and effective learning. The guidebook has good supporting material and is a good reference for future. I enjoy your training style and like the way you put knowledge together to develop relevant, easy to apply and easy to learn models.  Two days full of enjoyable learning.  I have already applied some of what I have learned to improve my weakness in DDs and since had a very constructive DD"  Lisa Cochrane – Queensland Police

"This was a really valuable course.  It was well-structured, built on activities and emphasised learning through participant interactions.  It gave me a  greater understanding of available tools and techniques for dealing with difficult discussions. The presenter was knowledgeable and confident in course content and competent in discussing and applying it to various situations. It was really good." Karen Gault, Office of the Director-General, Department of Communities

"Your workshop provided some great skills. I've applied the leanings already, achieved a very positive outcome - and it has reduced my stress considerably. Thank you very much for your guidance." Duncan Bigg State Development Corporation

"The clinic gave me some insight into my previous difficult discussion behaviours, the confidence not to avoid difficult discussions and has helped me to believe that I can be constructive in these situations. I enjoyed the presenters style. Very evident  he  knows his ‘stuff'.  A lot of information provided very concisely over 2 days with a very good guide to use as a future resource. Keep up the good work." Deborah Stiles Manager – Queensland Health

 "Excellent. You don't realise how many communication bloopers we make in every day life. Fantastic presenting, Bill.  Tips on how to start a difficult discussion were most beneficial You are extremely approachable and deliver the information well. It is easy to learn in your interactive classroom, thanks" Stephen Dendle, Queensland Sport & Recreation

"Great structure and content, presented in everyday language with no highfalutin psychological terminology or theories with an easy-to-follow guidebook that's a valuable reference. I wish I'd attended programs like this when I was much younger.  I would have been a more effective worker, advocate, community participant and manager not to mention possibly a better husband and father." Bill Ohl Dept of Employment & Training

"An excellent course all very well presented and relevant – and the guide book is very well done. Going through how to use the "toolbox" effectively and practicing was great and I really enjoyed the challenge of thinking of things from another perspective. Very thought provoking.  It's quite a revelation to find out that not everyone thinks the same as I do!!! This course would be of enormous benefit to anyone who supervises / manages staff." Sandy Walsh, Central Queensland Institute of TAFE

"The clinic opened my mind up to planning how you are going to say something rather than just what you're going to say. It was very effective from my work-related experience. I operate in a very legalistic field and my conversations must be direct, factually concise, but somehow be delivered in a congenial manner. The tools will be very useful and help me become a more professional communicator. Thank you for a very informative two days." Steve Hearn, Manager Investigation Services, Ethical Standards Unit Office of the Director-General - Queensland Health

"This was a very worthwhile, very engaging program that was very relevant to me. I wanted to feel better equipped to have the tools to handle any difficult discussion better and be able to recognise the difficulties.  It helped me identify various stages of difficult discussions and common mistakes we all fall into when involved in a them.  It was very well presented, well-paced, very enjoyable throughout with clear and useful reference tools" Mike Phillips – Manager - Remote Communities Housing Service Centre  

"The training session was very well structured with the right balance of whole group and small group work. The stories and scenarios were helpful as was the reflection that occurred as a result. Lately I'm staying more open-minded and things have improved. I've been having the right difficult discussions with people – about ways/ideas in relation to how we raise issues with each other in the workplace and I refer to the guide now when planning difficult discussions." Rebecca Hand, Director - Dept of Communities

"I thought the structure and contents were great with clear, concise explanations and the methods used were good for drawing out feelings and thought about certain areas. The Guidebook is a great resource and I have used it to go over concepts with different staff and have used diagrams to help staff remember how to deal with clients. I think Bill is a great facilitator and coach." Leone Deighton – Manager - Queensland Health Health

"I sent 5 staff to Bill's program and they've given me excellent feedback. They all personally gained a great deal and they'll be great advocates for the program."  Maree Barton, Director, Dept.of Employment and Training

"Difficult Discussions was well worth the time and very good value. The training provided was of a very high standard which reflects your in-depth knowledge in this area.  Your good sense of humour was appreciated and it kept the group`s energy level and interest high." Ken Day - Department of Local Government, Planning, Sport and Recreation

"A winning combination! The course materials are well-written, comprehensive and easy to navigate. The facilitator knows and uses the course content inside out, but not as a script to follow… The conversational style adopted throughout the 2 days put attendees at ease, so they willingly shared personal experiences (good and bad) for the sake of the group's learning journey. I found myself as both student and tutor, learning from the trainer, other attendees and, most importantly, from myself…" Tony Rolls – State Development

"I found this clinic easy to follow and useful I thought the structure worked well. The game show  was a good way to energise and  It was good to spend time on the case example and really work it through with changes. I found the concept of zone of tolerance very useful for explaining some differences which  I can now empathise with more.  I also  enjoyed your informal approach and adult learning style. The humour was appreciated and the resource guide is a great set of tools for ongoing work. I think it really has informed some of my conversations in the past week." Cathie Peut – Centrelink

"One of the best courses  I have attended.  I get bored very easily if I have to sit all day but didn't have time to experience those feelings. Very relaxed atmosphere and presentation and movement between one group and several groups for various activities enhanced focus. Time just vanished. Well done.  Great to include your personal experience, felt it put us on the same level rather than think, "it couldn't happen to the presenter" Patricia Neale Manager – Child Safety Service Centre

"Very enjoyable, insightful and most of all useful in everyday life.  I've been refreshing what I learnt on arrival back in the workplace and trying to use this in all my dealings now and not just in difficult discussions.  I found the book very easy to read and have used a number of the concepts even in everyday life.  I enjoyed the relaxed open environment that you so quickly seemed to create with the group. Thanks" Naomi Pradella Project Director Queensland Health

 
     
 

CBS Master Trainer

Bill Cropper is Director of The Change Forum – an Australian-based leadership and culture change consulting firm that specialises in the areas of emotional intelligence, conversational coaching, strategic change management and culture-building.

He has a wealth of practical experience working with a wide range of public and private organisations across Australia in sectors such as Health, Police, Corrective Services, Defence, Roads, Electricity, Water, Rail Services, Mining, Construction and local government .

Bill's work centres on helping leaders build the conversational, emotional, relational and team-working capabilities they need to create vibrant, supportive work cultures and high-performing teams. He is keenly interested in the benefits of conversational coaching to promote more productive, open interchanges, facilitate personal growth and create more connective and constructive conversational cultures amongst leaders and teams at work. For the past seven years, he's delivered extensive rounds of Conversational Coaching, Emotional Intelligence and Dealing with Difficult Discussions clinics to thousands of managers, team leaders and other professionals from all walks of leadership life.

Bill has a down-to-earth, relaxed and outgoing style; personal mastery of a wide range of conversational coaching tools, facilitation techniques and personal change processes and customarily works comfortably with people from all sorts of occupations, backgrounds and organisations. He is a graduate of Sydney University, and has held senior HRM/consulting positions with The Metal Trades Industry, The Australian Productivity Council and The Industrial Democracy Unit in the Australian Public Serviced prior to setting up his own consulting business some twenty years ago.

The Change Forum is proud to be associated with The Centre for Behavioural Science in presenting these conversational coaching clinics in Singapore...

 
     
     
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